“Politics refers to moral values”

Why do we avoid talking politics with family or friends if we think we don’t agree with the other person?

Politics refers to moral values, often binary and Manichean. The fate of the human being is at stake with the vote, so our interest prevails and sensitivities are exacerbated. Moreover, the family is a system based on loyalties. If one of its members differentiates himself, families can feel betrayed: “Are you questioning our values? Aren’t they the right ones?” Silence is an attempt to maintain the system as it works.

Is it healthy to keep quiet about our political differences among our close relations?

Keeping quiet can be understood, but if the situation becomes even more tense with an extremism of votes, the risk is that misunderstandings will multiply and turn into reproaches. With these silences, in fact, a form of frustration and disaffection is created. Suspicion increases, while by knowing better the one who “offends” us a little, compromises are still possible.

Are there any rules for discussing politics in a close circle?

Like a democracy, we must respect speaking time, as well as everyone’s choice, admit that we will not necessarily agree, use some filters in expressing our ideas, not speak in an overly vengeful manner. A real ability to listen and a desire to understand are necessary. Without trying to convince! It’s all in the nuance.