“A friend of my mother interferes with the nursing home”

The point of view of Marcel Rufo, child psychiatrist

You must be careful with this friend, Blandine, because her visits maintain your mother’s link with the outside world, since she entered the nursing home. We should not limit his arrival. The simplest thing is to call this person regularly to discuss with them the information they have collected from the staff, to agree on adjustments to your mother’s living conditions and possible changes to her care.

Also consider intervening with the staff of the establishment where your mother resides to ask them to provide as little information as possible to this friend. You may also want to broach the subject directly with your mother, suggesting that she asks this person about him when they talk together, rather than her friend asking about hers.

Forget any feelings of guilt towards your mother, Blandine, it can only fuel your annoyance. Simply try to protect her relationship with her friend, while organizing it as best as possible.