Testimony. “I’m ashamed to cry”: our advice

Marcel Rofo’s point of view, child psychiatrist

The news you share with you takes short, Jacques. Deeply reached, you try to escape a scenario that you refuse. But have you proposed to your wife to open the discussion in a different setting from your daily life which, for her, seems to have become unbearable? If it seems impossible to you and you have children, I think you need to inform them of the situation. Without the help of a third party – why not a marital therapist? -, you may sink into depression.

As for your shame of crying, it may sign a feeling of guilt on your part, if you feel responsible for the deterioration of your relationship. Unless you are overwhelmed by your emotions. In this case, accepting your disorder will do you good. Do not try to suppress the tears that accompany it.

Faith can undoubtedly be of great support. Through it, you feel protected since you take refuge in a church so that it houses your distress, which you do not show outside this place. But you also need to speak, Jacques. To understand what is happening in your heart as in your couple.