The advice of Marcel Rofo

Marcel Rofo’s point of view, child psychiatrist

Faced with this teenager who would no doubt have difficulty open from this subject to her parents, for fear of their judgment, you have perfectly played your role, Véronique. Your testimony, emanating from an attentive and benevolent grandmother, could only appease it. The transparency you showed was welcome.

You could talk to Lilou of her questioning in some time, asking her where she is with her friend, if she has told her in your story and, why not, if her own grandparents are also aware. In this case, you might offer him to chat with them on the phone. All this so as to create a community of support, family and extra-family, to surround these anxious teenage girls and perhaps embarrassed to feel the emotions that Lilou has entrusted to you.

Your testimony shows that one can, without guilt, assume a complex and in any case non -linear path. Lilou is under construction; At his age, nothing is frozen in matters of sexual orientation. Your mission is to accompany him step by step, without taking a position: “I bring you my testimony which may be able to help you, but it is you who must trace your route. »»